Be Present

Distractions are everywhere, Take a look around you. Chances are someone around you has their phone or device up to their face canceling out everything happening around them. Heck, you’re probably reading this article on your phone right now. We bury ourselves in work, chasing promotions money and material items that we think will bring us happiness. Nothing wrong with all these things as long as it is not stealing all your attention from your kids or a loved one.  Spending time with your kids is important and unfortunately time is something we cannot get back once it’s gone.

I guess that I am entering a different season in my life now, at least it feels different. I have 2 daughters, one moved out on her own now and the other starting her senior year of high school. I also have a 7 year old boy whom I’m trying to spend more quality time with before he to grows completely up. I was fairly young (early 20s) when my daughters were born. I spent a lot of the time when they were growing up working out of town, employed on evening shifts, long hours and commutes. I missed a lot of ballgames, concerts and vacations with my family. I was doing what I thought was the most important thing “provide”. I feel providing for the needs of your family is a responsibility of a father, but it is not the only obligation a father has to his children. None of are ever perfect, and I undeniably have my share of regrets but I have learned that time spent with our kids is never wasted time. I stated figuring this out when one day I theoretically turned around and my oldest was asking me to teach her to drive. Everyone always told me (and you’ve heard it too) when the kids were little to enjoy it because it goes by fast. Well, they were right and I honestly didn’t understand that until it happened. I’m trying to change those habits and am honestly now trying to make the most of every moment I do get with my kids. Regrets shouldn’t be focused on, or you will miss the future. Learn from it and move on..

Time spent together does not have to be anything extravagant. Some of the best memories I have with my girls (and they still talk about) were fishing and camping trips, picnics at the park, and family hikes. (Order my eBook at the link below to read about a hiking story) Kids should know who you really are and you should know them. I encourage anyone who feels the guilt of the time with their children slipping away to take the first step and don’t let distractions get in the way. We can carve a spot out in our day and prioritize our schedule to spend an hour with your child. Put down the smartphone, get out in nature and just observe your kids. Be present in the moment and don’t overthink. Listen to them and follow their lead. You may just be surprised what you will discover.

Link to eBook:

https://www.amazon.com/Moments-Trail-Jeff-York-ebook/dp/B0982Q5J4Y